How to Chose your Profile Photos
We live in a world where online dating has become the norm, yet so many people complain about it.
Every day I hear from people frustrated because they find online dating too superficial.
They tell me that they don’t like being judged based on their photos and a few sentences they write about themselves.
I agree because I believe that a healthy, long-lasting relationship is built on compatibility, followed by connection, and chemistry should come last.
While physical attraction is an important element of a healthy relationship and sex life, it is very prone to error when you look at the success of a relationship.
Have you ever met someone that you thought was incredibly attractive and the minute they opened their mouth you realized you couldn’t spend 5 minutes with that person? Suddenly the attraction vanished…
Maybe it was their voice, how they spoke, or what they said but their physical beauty couldn’t overcome their character flaws.
The same can be true the opposite way.
Someone who isn’t initially a person you find attractive can become suddenly irresistible when you learn how much you share the same values, lifestyle, and life vision and you form a deep connection.
The problem that I see quite often is that people want to be judged by who they are and not by their online dating photos and so they neglect this part of their profile.
Unfortunately, the reality is that even if you write a killer online dating bio, we are all human and we make judgments without even meaning to.
People will make assumptions based on their own views, beliefs and experience.
This is why I always recommend having professional dating photos taken which highlight your best features.
You don’t want to miss out on a potential life-changing connection because you didn’t put your best foot forward.
If your profile contains a bathroom selfie, a picture with your Ex cropped out, or photos of you with bad hair or a silly hat on, you aren’t at your best.
I’m sure you wouldn’t apply for a job without a professional photo, or consider using a selfie on your website, so why would you try to attract a life partner with an unflattering photo?
If finding love is top of your priority list, investing in professional dating photos is a must!
Here are 5 recommendations to keep in mind when selecting your online dating photos:
Include 1 or 2 headshots and be sure that you have a full smile in at least one of them
1 full-length body shot where we can see your body shape (e.g. not in a ski suit)
1-2 photos of you doing a sport or hobby of interest - tell us a story with your photos
1-2 photos which show you in different settings. (e.g. 1 elegant/business and 1 casual)
No go's - No group photos, no children in photos, no topless/bikini photos, no photos older than 12 months, no over-edited or filtered photos, no alcohol in the photos and please, please, please - No bathroom selfies!
Remember – Your photos tell the story you fail to put into words.
About the Author - Kelly Brändli
Kelly is the founder and CEO of The One Coaching & Matchmaking, and is also a Scientific Dating and Relationship Coach, certified Matchmaker, speaker and workshop presenter who lives in Zürich, Switzerland. She has been in the business of connecting people for over a decade. First as an Executive Headhunter, later turned Love Expert, she now helps singles find real love both on and off-line. Through her extensive insight and experience of what makes for a great relationship, she is able to help singles identify and quickly overcome the issues that are holding them back so they can finally find THE ONE and go on to build the relationship and love life of their dreams.
